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February 14, 2014

JACKIE DAVIS: Take a 'time out' for love

Lockport Union-Sun & Journal

Lockport Union-Sun & Journal — Ah, it’s Valentine’s Day! Love is in the air, hearts and flowers everywhere. Silhouettes of Cupid with his bow and arrow decorate walls and doors. The warm, wonderful smell of baking fills homes and shops, as heart-shaped sugar cookies, red velvet cake, strawberry cupcakes are prepared for this, the “sweetest” of all holidays.

May I mention chocolate? Today is a chocolate lover’s dream holiday! In my humble opinion, a heart-shaped box of chocolates is one of the best Valentine’s traditions, closely followed by the “old school” romance of red roses.

Everyone is given an opportunity to share expressions of love and feelings we have for the special people in our lives on Valentine’s Day. Even when life gets very full of the day-to-day responsibilities of life — career, school, family, finances, household chores, et cetera — this holiday invites us to take a “time out” to remember that love is both a noun and a verb.

As a noun, love is defined as an intense feeling of deep affection, or a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person, or a feeling of warm personal attachment. As a verb, it means, “to feel a deep romantic or physical attachment, or to care very much for, or to hold very dear with deep devotion.”  

Whether you are planning a romantic dinner with your sweetheart, buying a lovely card or gift, or helping your kids give valentines to classmates, family and friends, I hope you are taking a moment this Valentine’s Day to warmly reflect on this wonderful thing called love. I hope you will actively make a moment to show love to the people you love. In my heart of hearts, I offer you some do’s and don’ts to consider today:

Do take a moment to Google/read l Corinthians 13, otherwise known as “the love chapter” — especially the verses that say “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud ... it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs ... Love never fails.” NIV

Don’t take for granted that your family just “knows” you love them. Tell them!

Do let go of simple oversights and small offenses; choose to walk in forgiveness. The one you ultimately set free is yourself.

Don’t assume your spouse is a mind reader and should already know what you want or need to feel loved. Share honestly and openly.

Do tap into the many ways to share love: quality time, focused attention, touch, words of appreciation, humor, deeds of kindness ...

Don’t assume love must cost “big bucks.” Surf the Web for low-cost or free ideas for sharing this loving weekend.

Do take advantage of Valentine’s weekend. It’s not every year that Valentine’s Day falls on a Friday!

Don’t compare families, marriages, spouses, houses, gifts, personalities, body types or material possessions on this holiday — or, for that matter, any day. You will only make yourself miserable, unrealistically comparing someone else’s strengths to your perceived weaknesses.

Do at least one thing special for each of your loved ones to show them you care.

Jackie Davis is an inspirational vocalist, musician and speaker with over 20 years of television broadcast experience. Her column is published every first, third and fifth Friday of the month. Contact her at jjd.22344@yahoo.com.