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March 28, 2014

JACKIE DAVIS: Is worry really worth it?

Lockport Union-Sun & Journal

Lockport Union-Sun & Journal — If you have read my columns for any length of time, you know by now that I am an optimist. It is incredibly easy for me to “look on the bright side” of life. If there is any remote possibility that the glass in front of me is either “half full” or “half empty,” for me, it’s half full every time.

In the midst of life’s storms and strife I know, somehow, that “this too shall pass.”

Old sayings like “every cloud has a silver lining” and “keep your sunny side up” don’t annoy me.

That doesn’t mean that I am oblivious to negative circumstances, though. It doesn’t mean that I never experience anything bad, or that I have not once complained about this year’s seemingly never-ending winter.

It does mean that when faced with an obstacle, conflict or challenge, I will prayerfully: look for a positive possibility, make the choice to rejoice, or look for the laughter in the life moment. 

Over the course of my life, I have found that when I give in to worry over a situation, I have lost sleep, lost joy and lost precious time, but I have not really found a solution or fixed a problem.

Just recently, I found myself faced with a worrisome situation. One of my private e-mail accounts was “hacked” twice in the span of two months. Someone was sending out extremely inappropriate material in my name. As a Christian musician and worship leader, I was distressed, to say the least, about what was fraudulently being sent out in my name. I had never been hacked before, and was frantic to “fix it.”  The what-ifs began to bother me. Worries of “what will people think” and “what am I going to do” occupied my mind, and yes, I even lost sleep over the situation.

As I took steps to notify friends and colleagues about what had happened, I received numerous responses and reassurances that many others had survived being hacked; and some offered positive solutions to help me.

(I want to give a very special thanks to the members of the Lockport Rotary Club, who personally let me know that they had received e-mails that were not from me.) My son Vincent was especially reassuring. I was able to focus, pray and take some practical steps to resolve the problem. Some good friends and I later shared a good laugh over the irony of the situation: An inspirational artist sending out inappropriate material — really?

I had to ask myself, is worry really worth it? What did I gain by the moments I spent worrying?

Worry may be defined by different sources as “to give way to anxiety or unease; to allow one’s mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles; or a state of anxiety and uncertainty over actual or potential problems.” It is synonymous with anxiety, uneasiness disquiet and distress, none of which I want to govern my state of mind.

One of the Bible verses my mother taught me as a child was “let not your heart be troubled; believe in God, believe also in me,” John 14:1. God’s arms are big enough to carry anything and everything that comes our way, if we simply give it to Him.

Sometimes, we just need to be reminded of that blessing.

Jackie Davis is an inspirational vocalist, musician and speaker with over 20 years of television broadcast experience. Her column is published on a bi-weekly basis. Contact her at jjd.22344@yahoo.com.